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The Past, the Present, and the Perhaps
Grace Calderon , Quezon City: Jul 31 2008
Made Popular Aug 1 2008

The Past, the Present, and the Perhaps

I don’t know what lies beyond the here and now. Surely, neither do you. And since what we don’t know won’t kill us, the realm of the unknown up ahead is what gives us hope. We cling on to hope to calm ourselves from the panic, assuage our fear a little, abate our loneliness somehow, or generally promise ourselves that life won’t break us.

We have become so hopeless that we peg our hope on the uncertain.

Hope is a busy fellow. It is the promise of religions, upcoming elections, newly installed politicians, self-styled spiritual teachers a. k. a. gurus et. al. They thrive on the better ‘perhaps.’ And so, because the hopes that we pin on ‘perhaps’ will only mostly get us down and frustrate us, might it not be wiser to simply dwell on the ‘present’ and learn from the ‘past?’

Hope is precisely what is fooling us.

The Past, the Present, and the Perhaps

The Past, the Present, and the Perhaps

A centuries-old temple has become the stage of a very modern military standoff as Thailand and Cambodia quarrel over a piece of land on both the nations’ borders. It is both countries’ hopes that one will win over the other for the rightful ownership of the 800-year-old Khao Preah Vihear Temple. The holy dispute affects the Cambodian Buddhist monks the most as pressure has mounted, and both Cambodia and Thailand have escalated troop build-up near the historic border temple. We can only surmise as to what lies ahead for the Thai, the Cambodians, and the monks. Each party will otherwise want to have its own hopeful prediction.

The Past, the Present, and the Perhaps

George W. Bush transported more and more troops to Iraq, partly to help the Iraqis get united, but mostly to assure US taxpayers who have been funding the war that the White House has been right on target to hang on to the hope of victory. Now, all 5 surge brigades have left Iraq and the battle-riddled country is hopeful that the US will pull out all troops from combat by 2010. The air of uncertainty remains, however, over the fact that Iraqi troops still rely on American support and that Iraqi politicians may not really be capable to manage the country at this point.

The Past, the Present, and the Perhaps

The matter of Afghanistan is on both John McCain’s and Barack Obama’s foreign policy plate. Whoever wins the US elections means sending more troops to this yet another battle-riddled country, as US troop casualties are on the rise with the burgeoning Taliban mounting more attacks. Combat brigades of up to 15,000 troops will be sent to Afghanistan to tame the insurgency.

The Past, the Present, and the Perhaps

But terrorism and insurgency are only a part of Afghanistan’s pessimism. The country is grossly underdeveloped, having been ‘promised progress by every government since 1973,’ as a lowly Afghan worker laments. Afghanistan has been battling widespread drug addiction, corruption, lawlessness, and a massively handicapped economy. Where lies Afghanistan’s hope, then?

The Past, the Present, and the Perhaps

There really is just a ‘perhaps.’ It is the realm where solutions are found – or never found. The phrase ‘there’s hope in the future’ can be misleading. There’s only hope for the solution to certain aberrations of what can be deemed normal or ideal. There really is no hope for the tides to change.

That is why hope rests in the region of ‘perhaps.’ We are never equipped to find out the answer. Where problems and solutions are out of our reach, do we wring our hands and look up to heaven, or do we still nag ourselves with the question: are you part of the solution or part of the problem? The latter is the most stupid question that has floated around, really.

No need to ask that question. We are too small for that or too beyond it.

More and more, I’m seeing the logic why many of my countrymen go more often to lottery ticket outlets than to church. I can’t rob them of their newfangled definition of hope. Their religion and government have failed them.

If there is learned helplessness, there, too, is learned optimism. That is why I kiss a frog everyday.

Hope is like white light – immediately illuminating and blindly disorienting.

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Hi Grace,
I tend to believe that there are possibilities for the ’tides to change.’ And where there are possibilities there is hope. Though, there is a difference between hope-the feeling and hope-the assessment. Feeling hopeful can make you gullible, while making a hopeful assessment can strengthen your resolve. And while your cynicism and pessimism is understandable, religion, elections, some politicians and even spiritual gurus also tend to at times contribute positively and productively.

But most importantly another excellent piece.

”Hope is like white light – immediately illuminating and blindly disorienting.”

..beautifully put.
(aside-only the utopians write the best)
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Oh, it was not my intention to call you utopian, just made a general statement. And I take back my unnecessary nitpickings, as the article is beyond that. :)
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Oh, but nitpicking is good, Abhishek! I’d rather have company with critical readers such as you and the rest. ;)

I really like the way you think (as is clearly seen with your latest article). Loved that!
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Thanks for reading the piece, Abhishek! Utopian is the the last thing I’d like to be. LOL

But really thanks for your kind words.

I was only cynical and pessimistic by way of evaluation. But this article is really full of hope! ;)

Hope for reawakening.

Mabuhay!
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Grace,
I have become a big fan of your writings. You weave with a poetic touch...I shall look forward for your collected works to hit bookstores someday...maybe you already have a book published?
They say ’hope’ never really dies and even if dead it can rise from the ashes...
I pin my hope on lottery ticket buyers, they want to live a better life and they prefer shelling out hard earned money knowing all the odds very well than join some exterminating gangs.Innocent souls will save the world.
Hope the world will get bored with over dose of violence and peace will replace fear.
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Forgot to add, once again pictures are hidden...
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
I was writing you an emotional reply when it hung... *sigh*
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Yeah...the images are hiding again... this is so sad already...

The images are important to the article...
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
I don’t see them, Madhuri! But that’s ok, I guess. You read the article and commented even without seeing the pictures. :)

They’ll come back again, promise!
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
You know what, Madhuri? I always wait for your comments. You always seem to know the why and wherefore of things and events. I admire your wide knowledge base!

And your compassion for the Third World always comes through.

Yes, I believe you! The innocent souls will save the world!

PS You write poetically yourself. Honest!
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Come on, Grace, I am a dumb girl sitting in small corner of the globe and trying to peer from my small window of limited knowledge and experience.
Looks like I have to work on my writing style, I don’t want to come across as know-it-all...only spiritual leaders have that quality:)LOL
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
HEHEHE I know what you mean by that last line! LOLZ

Au contraire, solitaire! The good thing about you is that you read and read, and that’s good!

But above that, you have the quality of digging deeper and connecting emotionally with what you write about. Review your writing and you’ll see what I mean.

We just write and write. We’re no spiritual leaders! LOL
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Jayashree
bangalore, India
I can’t help but poke my nose in here, coz when I first started reading the article I was so excited about pointing Grace in the direction of ’he who knows what lies beyond’. But then I guess neither of you need help with that one..sigh
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Hi Jayashree! Thanks for reading this! I await your direction of ’he who knows what lies beyond.’

Promise, I’d love to hear it from you this time. Or from anybody else, for crying out loud! LOL
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Jaiyant Cavale
Bangalore, India
Let me poke my nose as well. Aye Aye we are no spiritual leaders... He who knows what lies beyond did not come back to tell the story. The one who says he is the one who knows is an impostor.
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Naughty, naughty, you boy. LOL
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Jayashree
bangalore, India
@Grace But you already know ’Him’! So does Madhuri and Jaiyant..hmpfs
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
No, we probably don’t know Him yet, Jayashree! LOL

We’re just maybe not in a race with ourselves all the time to search for Him. ;)

Wanna join our un-wisdom society? LOL
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Jayashree
bangalore, India
Join? But I thought I was a star member of it already! Oh the pain..
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Okay, I was just kidding, Jayashree! Of course, you’re one of the founding members! :):)
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Jayashree
bangalore, India
Tee hee! Thanks, Grace! I feel I’m getting further away from the light now, and my head feels lighter..
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Someone take Jayashree to the hospital now, quick! She’s frothing at the mouth! Her eyeballs are way up in their sockets!

LOL
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Jayashree
bangalore, India
Tee hee hee! Must be a full moon night..
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Fariha Jamil
Lahore, Pakistan
Excellent piece Grace.

Well as far as i know of my limited knowledge, this hopelessness is one of the signs of the end of times... the end of times imply the Golden for Mankind.

I guess mankind has fallen as far as it could, its time to rise again...hope again... lol
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Thanks, Fariha.

You’re so right, girl! The Golden Age comes after the Dark Ages. And since we might, just might, be on the brink of fall, there’s always hope to hope for. ;)
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Inspite of all that you have written viz terrorism, political schisms, religious squabbles etc,People do cling on to life - That’s hope.
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
You’re right, Dayasurabhi. Thanks for the comment. In spite of all the human baggage and human garbage, there is hope.

In fact, it’s the last thing we always have. Most of the time, it’s the last thing we ONLY have.

Thanks for gleaning the insight here about hope as the last man standing.

Great!
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Sasmita
pune, India
Temples are the biggest threat of being attacked. Because it stands as the religious center. This Cambodian Buddhist temple is one example. Yes, you are right. We can see the past and present only, but not the future. Anything can happen tomorrow in this uncertain world.
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Thanks for reading, Sasmita. Yes, there’s no possible divination for the future, as we don’t even know that it is.

We can only hope for the best, each time.

:)
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Jaiyant Cavale
Bangalore, India
’That is why I kiss a frog everyday.’

And I trudge to the bus stop to catch the hideous yellow university bus at 7 15 every morning.

Hope is like white light – immediately illuminating and blindly disorienting.

Some of the drugs also make you see white light.. And sometimes when you receive a heavy blow on your head, you see a strange white light, which they say is similar to what enlightened ones feel.
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Ok, I’ll try whacking myself with a pan a little later on so I can be enlightened as well. LOL
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Jayashree
bangalore, India
@Jaiyant I heard from a ’very reliable source’ that you kiss the frog in your college garden everyday..do you deny it? Tee hee!

@Grace It hasn’t been scientifically proven of course, but kissing frogs may lead to getting stuck at home with a bunch of tadoples..
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@Jayashree, You are trying to peep beyond ’hope’...the think happy end of the story at the metamorphosis of the frog with a kiss...
Tadpoles...hehehe, that was a good giggly one:)lol
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Jayashree, alas!, there are no tadpoles! Not even half-tadpoles! LOL
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Madhuri, can you teach me how to get those tadpoles? LOL
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Jayashree
bangalore, India
I wanted to join the crusade in leading people to the blinding light, and enlighten myself in the process..

Psst, by the way Madhuri, I wasn’t really trying to protect Grace from the tadpoles. I just want the Prince all to myself!
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
LOL Jayashree! But the prince has turned into a frog again...
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Jayashree
bangalore, India
Grace, I can always hope he would be a Prince when in my presence, right? But perhaps that’s hoping for way too much..hoping beyond hope.
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Hope spring eternal in the human breast, yada yada yada, hehehehe...
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Rudolf irokoproductions.com
New York, United States
”If there is learned helplessness, there, too, is learned optimism. That is why I kiss a frog everyday.”

I will tell the frog. I will tell him you are actually kissing it as you wait for your prince.

I will tell the frog.
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Sshhhh, Rudolf, the frog already knows. He kisses back with eyes open. :)
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Shahwar K
kolkata, India
””Hope is precisely what is fooling us.””

your write up is ”beautiful”!

thanx for ”gracing” instablogs with this piece.

i feel elated when i come across such thoughts, even if rarely.

feels great to see there are people out there who really ”think”

The title to your piece is ”POETIC”!
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Thanks, Shahwar! My full gratitude to your compliment - my entire quota for gratitude in this lifetime and the next. :):)
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Rudolf irokoproductions.com
New York, United States
Grace,

What a frog he is, indeed.

What will keeping his eyes open do for him? Unless to know when to hop away.

Poor frog.

That is why I prefer toads. Ugly as hell, but solid on the ground and can withstand a runover by a car while the frog will go piiii - with the green content of its belly exposed for all to see.
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Rudolf, you’re gross, bro! ”...frog will go piiii - with the green content of its belly exposed for all to see.”

I know that scene! I once ran over a frog!
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Rudolf irokoproductions.com
New York, United States
...and you ran over the frog and then bent down and kissed it. Oh, yucky, yucky. Sister, you’re the gross one.

By the way, does the new frog know your history with frogs? He may need to do more than just keep his eyes open, he needs to wear armor else you pull out your lips and pull up your Hummer. And piii....
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
LOL Rudolf! Really, sick! The nightmare with that frog is all coming back now...

It wasn’t my fault! It cut across as I was going down a lane. It could have opted to jump back to the grass, but no! it chose to jump at me!

No, I didn’t kiss that one. It would have been quite difficult as it got stuck on the tire looking like a potential wallet... Sorry...

But, yeah, there was a lot of piii...
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Hope is something very dangerous. Many people have hope that their lives improve, wishing a future that bring them something good. The problem is that many people who are opportunistic, ”merchants of hope”, mainly religious and political.

We must be optimistic but not naive.
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Whenever you get serious, Celso, it sends shivers up my spine. LOL

One moment you ask me if I swallowed a punk for lunch, the next moment you’re analyzing the sociological implication of punks.

Celso, I have no more hair to pull! LOL
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Grace, know a great hairdresser that can leave your hair the same Amy Winehouse!
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Amy Winehouse...Hmmm...good suggestion! I can use that. After all, she’s got lots of hair.
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That is not hair, is the hideout of Osama bin Laden!
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About the kissing frog: be careful, can you imagine if someday the frog turns out into Caligula?
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Jayashree
bangalore, India
I like Caligula! Grace, you can give ME the frog in that case!
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I have one here, but the problem is that my frog is Che Guevara.
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Jayashree
bangalore, India
Che was danm hot when he was in his twenties. Need I say more, Celso?
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
ROFL!!

Ok, Jayeshree, you can have Caligula. And Celso, you can keep Che Gueverra!

You, guys, are hilarious!

The other time, Celso and I were talking about Magneto. And Jayashree and I were talking about cats.

What is happening?? And I thought my articles will be full of fire and brimstone!

LOLZ
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Sorry Grace. Today I forgot to take the medicine that my psychiatrist prescribed for me!
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
The past, the present, and the perhaps...you can change medication.

LOL
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Jayashree
bangalore, India
Magneto is scary. Not Freddie scary, but still scary. And I want Che, too :( I can’t help being so selfish..

Celso, your shrinks been reading your comments and he’s doubled the medication. Or perhaps it’s just because you talk to Grace. Seven pills of depakote for you from now on..
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That’s no a problem, cause he is imaginary!
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Oh no! I cause men to lose their minds!

Hahahaha!

That was a far shot but did it reach the hoop? :)
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Jayashree
bangalore, India
What have you done now, Grace? I don’t see Celso anymore
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I am hiding me of Grace’s frogs!
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Jayashree
bangalore, India
So they’ve become Grace’s frogs again, have they :( Well, it was nice imagining having Che and Caligula by my side for a while...
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Jayashree
bangalore, India
Interesting how no matter what Grace writes about, the discussion centers around some creature in the end. Past couple days, I’ve read about cats, frogs, werewolves and tikbalangs.. Did I miss anything?!
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
I was just saying that in my other post. LOL

I should really use more fauna metaphors in the upcoming pieces. LOL
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Rudolf irokoproductions.com
New York, United States
Grace,

Why should I believe your version of events? Because we write on instablogs?

I want to hear from the frog.

If you were going down the lane, you should have seen it. Were you driving one of those cars that do not make noise? Why didn’t you jump to the grass instead of waiting for the poor innocent frog out to find its lunch and to feed its numerous kids? Why? Didn’t you see the plea of hunger in its eyes? Why did you deal such a big blow to a single Mum with numerous kids to care for?

Since that incident, have you cared about those you made homeless orphans? Have you? And you want me not to say shame on you? Why?

Admit it! You were looking for a new wallet. And that is how you obtain it for cheap? Tomorrow you complain about those who use child labor and all what not. Here you were, because of a new wallet, you rendered a family of frogs motherless.

Ah! Shame on you.

And to make matters worse, you have the audacity to keep a frog at home and kiss it when you want.

You know what, you are a good candidate for the CEO of a multinational cooperation. They treat the rest of us the way you treated that frog.
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
HAHAHAHA! Go on, berate me as you wish! MEA CULPA MEA CULPA!

Yeah...It really could have looked good as a wallet...

Btw, frogs around here don’t make noise. Everything is stealthy around here, especially if one is about to jump on another...

PS
The frog isn’t available anymore for interviews for your next book.
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Your next book: CHILDREN OF A LESSER FROG
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
or...CHILDREN OF A RETIRED FROG
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Rudolf irokoproductions.com
New York, United States
Haaaaaaaaaaaa That’s a good title... lesser frog.
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
It has a nice ring to it, huh?

The decimation of the denizens of the lower rungs on the food chain, as done by the supremacy of man and his nihilistic nature. A probe into the underbelly of the frog wallet industry and underground economy. A new exciting masterpiece from Rudolf Okonkwo!

Oh, brother, Kim Zigfeld would just love that!
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Rudolf irokoproductions.com
New York, United States
Grace, you know I can sell the book idea based on what you wrote up her.

That Kim, you know that I miss her some days- as crazy as that sounds.
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Grace Calderon
Quezon City, Philippines
Oh, Rudolf, we knew that! I mean, you were the only two people in Instablogs that actually wrote and dedicated articles about and for each other!

We sort of watched the whole love-hate shebang unfold.

We can ask her back. Would you like that?

Hehe...
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Rudolf irokoproductions.com
New York, United States
I don’t think it is between us and her. I think it is between her and the management here.

Begging her may earn us some newly minted abuse.

I am sure she will be back one day. When things cool down and we forget things…

She kind of put herself in a tough situation when she gave the condition she gave for future contribution. I saw that as an escape from a different issue that was hard to win.

Anyway, I go to the other place she writes to see what she is up to. But there is no debate like we see here so it is just a boring monologue.
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